Kissing Hawaii Goodbye

After a three week hiatus due to a much anticipated trip to Hawaii – this blog post is long over due! Only getting to see your significant other will truly make you appreciate every moment and treasure the short time together. After three years, saying goodbye never gets any easier and I am counting down the days to Christmas! Since I am completely shameful that I haven’t been posting, I thought I’d share a few of my favorite moments from my Hawaiian adventure with y’all! I sincerely hope you enjoy those photos as much as I do!

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Secrets of an Anonymous Tweeter

After yesterday’s post on 32 Things That Makes Me Happy, I found a little inspiration to share something most people do not know about me: I was an antonymous tweeter. I’m sure that many of you follow a parody account or another an anonymous user that’s relatable to your life, but do you really understand the grunt work behind running that type of account? Well, I can honestly say that I do and it was one of the most emotionally draining things I have ever done.

It began when my boyfriend joined the Army. None of my friends or family could possibly understand what I was going through when my love of five years was shipped out to boot camp. I searched and searched for a way to connect with other girls who I could share my experience with, and oddly enough I found it on Twitter. Using the hashtags #milso and #milsoproblems, I opened doors to a whole new world that many of you probably have no idea exists. After connecting and forming friendships with other military significant others (MilSOs), I decided it was high time I create my own anonymous Twitter account.

After months creating my account and gaining well-over 1,000 followers I became a support system for other girls new to the military lifestyle. Each morning I would design inspirational tweets. Throughout the day I’d share my own battles with finding strengthen in being away from my significant other. Each night I would end the day with hope that tomorrow is a new start and they were one day closer to seeing their love. All the while, I would constantly respond to messages that flooded my inbox to help other girls get through the worst part of a long distance relationship – the first few months.

Maybe it’s just me, but I loved every minute of knowing that I was helping another person overcome the trials and tribulations of military relationships. I had no idea how time consuming and draining it could be – it takes a truly special person to be an anonymous tweeter. Being a full time college student and working part time put ended up putting my Twitter account on the back burner. From tweeting all day to sporadically, I felt like I was doing a disservice to the MilSO world. And then one day during my final weeks of my Senior year of collage and after months of running my account, I just stopped. I found that my own emotions were running high each time I logged on and I couldn’t find the time to continue.

If you are thinking of or are currently running an anonymous Twitter account, please know what you are in for and how much your followers depend on you. Depending on the content of your account, you can mean so much to so many people even though they have no idea who you truly are. Sometimes, connecting with a stranger helps people reveal their real thoughts and feelings of their current situation.

 

The Quarter Life Crisis

I am 24-years-old, in my “prime” as some would say. In less than three months, I will be graduating with my master’s degree and the world is my oyster. I could take a job hundreds of miles away, I could start my own company, I could travel the world…the options are limitless. Many people, around my age, are consumed with the hustle and bustle of life, trying to aspire to be the best person they can ultimately be. But, when do we become so consumed to “what could be” that feel overwhelmed and gravitate toward things that will bring us the most security and comfort? This is the idea of having a quarter life crisis.

It’s always been my personal goal to achieve big dreams and not settle for less. Now, the opportunity to do those things is knocking on my door and I am at a cross road. Everyday I wonder if I should take a big job in the city or move back to my hometown and wait for my significant other to return from the military. There are so many positivities and negatives to each that it has driven me to insanity! I just want someone  to say this is what you need to do and you will achieve goal A, B, and C. In reality, I know it isn’t that easy and will never be, but boy do I wish it was!

A quarter life crisis is not the end all – be all existance to our very being. It’s a fact that no one wants to make a wrong decision or take the wrong opportunity and simply settle for a life of “what ifs’.” Overcoming the quarter life crisis is a leap of faith; like turning in that final exam or getting over a bad breakup or even dealing with grief. We all go through it and I believe there are two things you can do to take this crisis by the horns: encourage and inspire.

To encourage others you’re helping others to take the plunge and accept that big job in Atlanta or  start up their own consulting firm. In essence, you are encouraging them to not be scared to take a chance and that settling for status quo just isn’t acceptable. Knowing that being a hypocrite simply isn’t suitable, this has encouraged me to do the same. Be encouraged, be vulnerable and know that it’s okay to not have it all together.

To inspire we can drive a sense of motivational success in ourselves and others. Whether you choose to be a leader or follower, inspiration comes from so many angles that we just have to open our eyes to all that life has to offer. By not letting the idea of a quarter life crisis consume you, you’ll be able to make decisions based on what you want and be the inspiration for others as well. Take a step back from the big picture mentality and look at each puzzle piece in front of you.

Life is full of twists, turns, once-in-a-lifetime opportunities, and dreams. There’s no such thing as perfect timing and you’ll never know if something if worth it unless you do it. We hold the ability to encourage and inspire ourselves by being living testimonies.

Must Read Monday: Home Front

If you know anything about deployment then you understand the toll it not only takes on the person who served, but the loved ones of that person. In her book Home Front, Kristin Hannah gives the emotionally powerful story of Michael and Jolene. Trying to balance the life as a mother and the role as wife of a district attorney, Jolene is also facing the reality of her upcoming deployment. As Jolene sends letters to her family from the front lines, she sugar coats every horrible moments that is exploding around her. When tragedy strikes, Michael is facing is on battle on the home front and has to do it all alone.

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It’s books like these make me make so proud of the sacrifice our men and women in uniform make every day. This is truly a beautiful book and brings the realities of war to those of us who do not live the military life on a daily basis. Browse here read more on Home Front!

Long Distance Love

In elementary school everyone brought their favorite pull-apart Valentine’s (and sometimes candy) to exchange with their fellow classmates. In high school, the principal started dismissal early on Valentine’s just to call girls’ names over the intercom who received flowers. Talk about humiliating  if your boyfriend didn’t get you flowers that day!! Not to leave you guessing, but yes I was the girl who picked out sparkly, Disney princess Valentines cards to exchange with my classmates and my name was called over the intercom to pick up my overpriced, hot pink roses from my sweet boyfriend.

My boyfriend and I have been long distance longer than I would like to admit. Let’s just say thanks to my college career and his military career, we’ve spent more Valentine’s a part than together. I won’t sugar coat it, it’s easy to get caught up in this holiday carried by companies like Florists, Hallmark, and Godiva Chocolates. To be honest, there was one Valentine’s Day where I stayed in bed in cried  because being surrounded by love made me miss the one that I love. But,thankfully that isn’t me any more. Being in a long distance relationship makes you stronger and you learn to do one simple thing to get through hard days: you live.

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Sure, I could spend today crying enough to fill up the Atlantic Ocean, just because I saw few silly hearts every place I go and couples displaying a little too much PDA. I have never been bitter about spending Valentine’s day alone and nor to do I plan to. I’m going to call my boyfriend and tell him how much I love him, just like I do every single day. Thanks to Graduate School, I will be spending the evening with my wonderful cohort and may even bake them a sweet treat.

Any holiday spent away from you significant other is not easy. I consider myself very lucky that I can talk to my boyfriend on phone or FaceTime, because many military significant others do not even get that! I hope everyone cherishes the one they love not just today, but every day. Oh, and please do yourself a favor and do not get caught up in all of the commercialization of this holiday!

Homecoming Day!

Today is the day that I have been waiting for for SIX months! I get to pick up my Solider from the airport for him to spend the Christmas at home!! There is nothing like having someone who means the world to you home during the holidays and we are so blessed that he is able to do so!

As long as we have been together and as many times as I have picked him up from the airport, I know I’m going to get butterflies when step on the escalator to get to “arrivals.” My palms will get sweaty and my heart will be racing for him to appear around the corner of the security line. While this is so cheesy to say, it is so true: after all these years my heart skips a beat the moment I see him again. Even though our time together will be short, I will be the happiest girl in the world when he arrives home!

Love is a beautiful thing!
I hope y’all are having a wonderful day as well!


A Little Thing Called Love

It was a crisp, fall Friday night and I was putting my cheerleading uniform on to cheer for my high school’s football team. Like so many of my fellow classmates we lived for Friday night spent under the lights of our small town “stadium.” Little did I know that that night would be one that I would still remember eight years later.

I noticed him right away. We went to church camp together when we were kids and he was from a neighboring county, a rival of my high school’s football team. He was tall, lanky and had piercing blue eyes that could stop you dead in your tracks. It was that night that we began “talking” {as we referred to it then} and just a few short months later he would ask me to be his girlfriend. Today marks the eighth year anniversary of that day.

Our relationship as been anything but easy. Right out of high school I went to the University of Alabama and during that time he moved to the southern part of Virginia to work. During my sophomore year of college I became incredibly sick. I returned to Virginia and he was by my side the entire time, even when I gave him every opportunity to leave. After I was finally better, he decided to join the Army and now he has been a United States Solider for more than two years. Needless to say, our hometown romance turned into a long distance love that we have held onto for quite sometime.

We always joke about how people ask us relationship advice when we have only dated each other. Long distance relationships are not something I’d want any couple should go through! It is really hard and can make you crazy, depressed and even insane. Our biggest motivator is that we both wanted to accomplish so many goals and we were each other’s biggest support. I wanted to go to college and get a degree and he wanted to serve his country just as his father and grandfathers had done.  Simply,  our ability to not be selfish is what has gotten us through is.

I know being in a long distance relationship will not be forever. We will be able to live our happy ever after one day and when that day comes I will be the happiest girl in the world. I am so lucky to have found the man of my dreams at sixteen and to have had eight wonderful years with him! Cheers to many more years to come and only three more days until he comes home for Christmas!!

 

Happy Thanksgiving!

I wanted today’s post to allow me to say how thankful and blessed I am to have such wonderful friends and family! They are truly some of the most amazing people on Earth and I am so lucky to have each of them in my life! I also wanted to take this opportunity to thank my follows and those of you who have supported me in this blog!

I hope all of you have a lovely day and remember to be thankful not only today, but every day!
Happy Thanksgiving!!

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The Excitement is Building!!

Words CANNOT express how excited I am that this day has arrived! Today marks exactly ONE month until my beau comes home for Christmas!!

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I know I have slightly touched on this in a previous post, but I am the proud girlfriend of a United States Solider. My boyfriend is currently stationed in Hawaii {lucky him!} and it will be six months since the last time that we saw each other when he arrives home! I am so blessed that we only have to wait such a small amount of time to see each other, because so many military families go many more months until they see their service men or women.

We are a few weeks shy of our 8 year anniversary…yes we are high school sweethearts! He has stood by my side through some of the biggest, hardest and happiest moments of my life and I could not think of a better person to share those memories with. No,  there aren’t wedding bells in our future {yet!}. Yes, we love each other and we are madly in love, but there is something to be said for finding yourself  and becoming financially stable before you say those “I do’s.” We believe that we are bettering ourselves for each other to be a stronger couple when we are ready for such a big step.

Needless to say one month from today I will be acting like a giddy little girl on Christmas morning, trying to hold it together and get ready to pick him up from the airport. There is nothing more beautiful and wonderful than being in love and I am beyond blessed that God has brought us together.


God Bless Our Veterans

There are a few things that stick out in my memory as a little country girl who spent her days on the farm with her grandparents during the summer. While playing with the animals and picking flowers in my Nana’s garden were obviously some of my favorite things, going to VFW {Veterans of Foreign Wars} events were something that we always did. At the time, I know that was the last thing I wanted to do and as a naive kid who could blame me?! I never really understood the true meaning behind the term veteran. Sure, I had heard stories of my grandfather’s deployment during World World II, but did I realize the sacrifice our servicemen and women endured and are still enduring today? No, not at all.

Today, my heart is full of gratitude and pride as an American, protected by our troops who have fought and are fighting for our freedom. I have so many family members who have served our country and I am the proud girlfriend of a U.S. Army solider. All I ask of you is that the next time you see a service man or woman please be sure to recognize them. They are making the ultimate sacrifice for our freedom, so please take any opportunity you have to say “thank you.”

I know my grandfather is watching over me from heaven every day. If I could do one thing it would be to put my arms around my him and tell him how much his service for our country means to me, something I never got to do before he passed away. Below is a picture of him taken in Germany where he was stationed during WWII. He is one handsome man and I can only hope to be half of the person that he was.

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